Sacred Space of Female Friendship

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What, you too? I thought I was the only one’ ”

– C. S. Lewis

It’s been a little while since I’ve written, and I’ve gone back and forth on different ideas about how to get back into my writing groove, but I keep coming back to writing about something close to my heart-friendship.  I’ve found in this season of my life that I’m continually reminded of how blessed I am with solid female friendships. Not to diminish my male friendships, which are great, but there is something sacred in the space of these female friendships that I’ve yet to find anywhere else. It seems like whatever challenges I’m facing, big or small, one of these lovely women is right there with me, either to listen to me, or facing something similar.

So, this post goes out to all my girls out there. From church to camp to college, I have found a community of women that support me and offer me their companionship in life. I’m continually amazed that when I catch up with those friends or share my life, I find that more often than not, my friend can not only relate, but empathize. In those raw and vulnerable conversations, expressing my deepest fears or frustrations, I’ve found deep connection.

To know that I have people in my corner when I’m navigating all the weird parts of being in your twenties is both comforting and empowering.

My friends are especially good at listening and seeking to both know me well and love me well. One of my close friends often asks me insightful questions like, “how can I pray for you?” and “what goals do you have for yourself in the next few months that aren’t work/school related?” Not only does she make a consistent effort to know me well, she pushes me to think about my life in a different light.

“Sooner or later, we rise or fall to the level of our friendships.” – Matthew Kelly

My friends have also shown me through their example how to be a better person. Not in some vague sense but each of them specifically have unique gifts and strengths that have taught me so much.

Clare’s automatic selflessness, Joanna’s consistent thoughtfulness, Catherine’s attention to even the minor details of my life, Emma’s genuine company, Callie’s continual optimism, Sara’s vivacity, Meredith’s sense of humor in tough situations, to name a few. All of these stand out in my mind as examples of how to live more fully. Observing how my friends are using and owning their unique passions has encouraged me to more fearlessly pursue my own.

These sacred friendships have offered me perspective, accountability, and a simple reminder that I’m not alone. And for that, I’m so very grateful!


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